These are my two baby daughters. They were born on 26th January at 1.38 pm and 1.39 pm, and they are incredible. I love my wife and my babies more than anything else in the world. I had no idea that love like this even existed. My two baby daughters are quite literally miracles and I shall explain why.
Rolling back the clock a few years I had been through a rough time. I was going through a divorce and I wasn’t really myself. When I was young I aspired to be a family man, so going through a divorce having achieved none of this was quite devastating. I wanted to have babies and a wife and to provide for my family and now it all seemed so far away. This aspiration almost seems like a dirty word these days, if men and women are not fully focused on their careers there is something wrong. With falling fertility in the western world we seem to be pushing ourselves in this direction too.
Whilst I was going through this bad period, I volunteered for the Scouts. They helped keep me level headed during some hard times and I learned a great deal about leadership. If you ever want to learn how to lead this is the place to do it. Kids are some of the hardest groups to lead so if you win here you can win anywhere.
Eventually my work took me further and further into London and so it became harder and harder to attend Scouts on Monday nights. I think these are the first people I would like to thank. If wasn’t for the Scouts taking me in and helping me to reflect I don’t think I would have easily got through that period, so thank you, you guys are truly amazing.
As I moved further into London I got closer and closer to my work colleagues. We were working on an incredibly difficult project ‘Customer Due Diligence’ and we had to work extremely long hours and under huge amounts of pressure. It felt like we were a small elite hit squad like the SaS (I don’t mean to do them a disservice, I’m sure they go through far more challenging things than us IT bods), but it had all the elements of camaraderie and companionship like a band of brothers. Those were the very best of days. That team was incredibly special and we achieved some incredible things getting the first release of CDD into production in what was essentially 3 months. So to you guys, I want to thank you.
As we moved through to the second release of CDD things got interesting again, we basically got a brand new team. New managers, new people it became a really huge team. Everyone on that team was fantastic to work with, we all went through the best of times (Pizza Friday!) and the worst of times. I made some fantastic new friends on that team, long term friends I will know forever. I took on greater responsibilities and really started to develop skills I will use for a lifetime.
I also managed to travel to places I never would have been to before, Hong Kong, Buffalo, India, China and Vancouver. In all these places I made more friends, everybody I met along the way I want to thank you. You guys, in each and every country made me feel incredibly welcome. It’s made me feel very much like the world is my home.
I met my future wife in Buffalo whilst I was there on business, she was the person that stood out the most for me in the whole of Buffalo. She is wonderful, kind, caring, the sweetest person I know and I love her American accent, it reminds me of sweetness and candy.
When I first met her, I knew she was the one for me. I’ve always made a habit of making sure every person I’ve been on a date with knows what I’m all about very early on, and so I’ve always told people I’m a family man and I wanted to have a family. What is the point of really pursuing something if you disagree on this fundamental issue? So when she told me that was off the cards for her (due to a medical condition) I’ll admit that I was sad. I figured that we could probably still work around that problem. I didn’t want to give up on her that easily, I knew she was the one for me.
After we dated for a while, it came as a huge shock that she was pregnant with identical twins – a true miracle. My life was turned upside down. I panicked a lot, how on earth was I going to make this work? She lived in the USA and I lived in the UK. I was genuinely scared that we wouldn’t be able to make this work and I would miss the birth of my beautiful baby daughters.
The first thing I had to do was tell my boss. I asked if they might make it possible for me to move to the USA, at least for the time being. They seemed to think this would not be a problem. I could work from Buffalo. The understanding and supporting nature of my boss and the senior managers I work with is outstanding. They have been incredible. I am so thankful and lucky to have people like that in my life. If it wasn’t for them I may well have missed the birth of my daughters.
As my life progresses it seems as though people don’t believe me. To have managed to have these miracle babies, and have such understanding people around me that they let me work from the USA, there is something fishy in my story. I can assure you there is not.
I genuinely feel lucky and in a world that seems to be losing its trust and kindness a little bit and becoming scared and protective. I want to strike out against that and repay the trust and kindness I’ve received. So thank you to everybody in my life, and to those of you who have been on this journey with me. I am truly thankful, grateful and humbled. You are very special people.
David